Showing posts with label Difficult Teens. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Difficult Teens. Show all posts

Friday, April 13, 2012

April is Alcohol Awareness Month

NO KIDDING, KIDS ARE ACTUALLY LISTENING TO THEIR PARENTS WHEN IT COMES TO TALKING ABOUT UNDERAGE DRINKING   

Parents are the Leading Influence in a Kid’s Decision to Not Drink Alcohol

In recognition of Alcohol Awareness Month, The Century Council, the leading national not-for-profit funded by distillers dedicated to fighting drunk driving and underage drinking, released new survey results today which reveal that parents continue to be the leading influence on their kid’s decisions to not drink alcohol.  Additionally, the survey demonstrates when it comes to talking about underage drinking, kids are actually listening to their parents when they discuss this serious, important, and sometimes awkward topic.

According to the research, parental influence with regard to underage drinking has increased significantly over the past 10 years.  Today, 83% of youth ages 10-18 years old, cite parents as the leading influence in their decision to not drink at all, or not to drink on occasion, which is up 28% proportionally from 2003. Parents rank significantly higher than friends/peers and teachers which tied for second as the leading influence on their decisions about drinking at 33%.  Rounding out the top six influencers are; punishment (28%), brothers and sisters (24%) and law enforcement (23%).

“Contrary to popular belief the survey shows that parents do have a strong influence over their kids when it comes to underage drinking,” said Ralph Blackman, President and CEO of The Century Council.  “Over the last 20 years, The Century Council has produced and provided educational tools and resources to parents, teachers, kids, coaches and other influencers to help make the conversation about underage drinking between parents and kids easier and more effective.

Our Ask, Listen, Learn program is the most widely distributed underage drinking youth educational program of its kind in the country.  While we cannot take sole credit for the improvement in conversations between caregivers and kids over the past nine years, we are thrilled to see the message to say no to underage drinking is resonating with kids.”

Risk of Underage Drinking is Resonating with Kids

Today’s survey indicates significant improvement in the effectiveness of conversations between caregivers and kids on the topic of underage drinking since first examined in 2003. A decade ago, research showed a disconnect between kids and parents on the topic of underage drinking.  In 2003, only 26% of youth reported their parents or grandparents had spoken to them four or more times in the past year about the dangers of drinking alcohol, while 49% of parents reported to have spoken with their children.

According to the new research, parents are talking to their kids about underage drinking and they are listening.  Nearly half of parents surveyed (46%), reported talking with their 10-18 year-old son or daughter four or more times in the past year about the dangers of underage drinking, and a nearly equal number (42%) of youth ages 10-18 reported speaking as frequently with their parents, grandparents, or another adult caregiver on the issue.

Underage drinking often becomes a discussion topic when there is an incident that triggers the conversation.  According to the latest study, the top three conversation starters for parents and youth today are:  (1) a tragedy reported in the news (54% parents, 47% kids; (2) something seen on TV or a movie (49% parents, 41% kids) or; (3) someone else getting caught with alcohol or drinking (37% parents, 36% kids).

“Concrete real world examples of problem drinking behavior are excellent places for parents to start a conversation with their kid about drinking. But with or without the perfect lead in, honest discussion of the negative consequences of underage drinking and the benefits of a healthy life style need to happen often and early,” said Anthony E. Wolf, Ph.D. clinical psychologist and bestselling author of “I’d Listen to My Parents if They’d Just Shut Up” and “Get Out of My Life, but First Could you Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall?”

Additional conversation starters to help parents approach the topic of underage drinking as reported by parents include: curiosity about alcohol (35%); learning to drive/driving the car (34%) and; going to a party or other social outing (33%).  Additional topics youth identify as a trigger to get them and their parents talking about underage drinking are: curiosity about alcohol (31%); going to a party or other social activity (30%); information from school (27%); and curiosity about whether you have friends who are drinking (28%).

Visit www.centurycouncil.org and www.asklistenlearn.com to learn about other activities through the month of April and beyond as we place focus on National Alcohol Awareness Month and continue the work to keep our nation’s youth safe and alcohol free.
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The Century Council

The Century Council, is a national not-for-profit leader in the fight to eliminate drunk driving and underage drinking and is funded by the following distillers: Bacardi U.S.A., Inc.; Beam, Inc.; Brown-Forman; Constellation Brands, Inc.; DIAGEO; Hood River Distillers, Inc.; and Pernod Ricard USA. Headquartered in Arlington, Virginia, The Century Council promotes responsible decision making regarding beverage alcohol and develops and implements innovative programs and public awareness campaigns which ignite action through strategic partnerships. Established in 1991, The Century Council’s initiatives are highlighted on its website at www.centurycouncil.org and www.asklistenlearn.org.

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About the research

The Century Council contracted Toluna to conduct an online survey of 10-18 year olds and parents of 10-18 year olds living in the same household.  Using one of Toluna’s demographically diverse panels, the survey matched parents of 10-18 year olds and their age appropriate son or daughter at the same time.  A nationally representative sample of 509 parents and 10-18 years was completed February 15-16, 2012.  Toluna is the world’s leading independent online panel and survey technology provider to the global market research industry.  The margin of error among the national sample is + 4.3%.
TRU conducted the May 2003 research among 10-18 year olds and Wirthlin Worldwide (now Harris Interactive) conducted the parent research utilizing their April and May 2003 National Quorum surveys.

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Saturday, December 13, 2008

Sue Scheff - Wit's End - Parenting Teens Today


Are you at your wit’s end?

Are you experiencing any of the following situations or feeling at a complete loss or a failure as a parent? You are not alone and by being a proactive parent you are taking the first step towards healing and bringing your family back together.

Is your teen escalating out of control?
Is your teen becoming more and more defiant and disrespectful?
Is your teen manipulative? Running your household?
Are you hostage in your own home by your teen’s negative behavior?
Is your teen angry, violent or rage outbursts?
Is your teen verbally abusive?
Is your teen rebellious, destructive and withdrawn?
Is your teen aggressive towards others or animals?
Is your teen using drugs and/or alcohol?
Does your teen belong to a gang?
Do they frequently runaway or leave home for extended periods of time?
Has their appearance changed – piercing, tattoo’s, inappropriate clothing?
Has your teen stopped participating in sports, clubs, church and family functions? Have they become withdrawn from society?
Is your teen very intelligent yet not working up to their potential? Underachiever? Capable of doing the work yet not interested in education.
Does he/she steal?
Is your teen sexually active?
Teen pregnancy?
Is your teen a good kid but making bad choices?
Undesirable peers? Is your teen a follower or a leader?
Low self esteem and low self worth?
Lack of motivation? Low energy?
Mood Swings? Anxiety?
Teen depression that leads to negative behavior?
Eating Disorders? Weight loss? Weight gain?
Self-Harm or Self Mutilation?
High School drop-out?
Suspended or Expelled from school?
Suicidal thoughts or attempts?
ADD/ADHD/LD/ODD?
Is your teen involved in legal problems? Have they been arrested?
Juvenile Delinquent?
Conduct Disorder?
Bipolar?
Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)?

Does your teen refuse to take accountability and always blame others for their mistakes?

Do you feel hopeless, helpless and powerless over what options you have as a parent? Are you at your wit’s end?


Does any of the above sound familiar? Many parents are at their wit’s end by the time they contact us, but the most important thing many need to know is you are not alone. There is help but the parent needs to be proactive and educate themselves in getting the right help.



Many try local therapy, which is always recommended, but in most cases, this is a very temporary band-aid to a more serious problem. One or two hours a week with a therapist is usually not enough to make the major changes that need to be done.

If you feel you are at your wit’s end and are considering outside resources, please contact us. http://www.helpyourteens.com/free_information.shtml An informed parent is an educated parent and will better prepare to you to make the best decision for your child. It is critical not to place your child out of his/her element. In many cases placing a teen that is just starting to make bad choices into a hard core environment may cause more problems. Be prepared – do your homework.

Many parents are in denial and keep hoping and praying the situation is going to change. Unfortunately in many cases, the problems usually escalate without immediate attention. Don’t be parents in denial; be proactive in getting your teen the appropriate help they may need. Whether it is local therapy or outside the home assistance, be in command of the situation before it spirals out of control and you are at a place of desperation. At wit’s end is not a pleasant place to be, but so many of us have been there.

Finding the best school or program for your child is one of the most important steps a parent does. Remember, your child is not for sale – don’t get drawn into high pressure sales people, learn from my mistakes. Read my story at http://www.aparentstruestory.com/ for the mistakes I made that nearly destroyed my daughter.

In searching for schools and programs we look for the following:
· Helping Teens - not Harming them
· Building them up - not Breaking them down
· Positive and Nurturing Environments - not Punitive
· Family Involvement in Programs - not Isolation from the teen
· Protect Children - not Punish them




Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Keeping Your Teen Out of Trouble



Parents Universal Resource Experts - Sue Scheff - parent advocate - Teens and trouble: think they go together like bread and butter? Well, you may be wrong. While teenagers do tend towards “risk-seeking” behavior, and seem to enjoy pushing boundaries – and parents' buttons – troublesome behavior can be anything but typical.

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Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Dating Violence and Cell Phones by Connect with Kids


Parents Universal Resource Experts is proactive in educating parents today on the issues surrounding our kids - teen dating! As a Parent Advocate, (Sue Scheff), I believe we have to keep informed on what is going on in our child's life outside our home. This tips list may help your child today.

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Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Sunday, January 6, 2008

(Sue Scheff) Positive Peer Pressure by Connect with Kids


Peer Pressure with today's teens can be difficult, but it can also be positive. Parent's Universal Resource Experts believes in building our teens back up to make better choices. As a Parent Advocate it is important to keep informed on our kids friends and the people they are haning out with.

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Thursday, December 27, 2007

Sue Scheff: Seasonal Affective Disorder by Connect with Kids


Parent's Universal Resource Experts is proactive in educating parents today on the issues surrounding our kids. These tips for parents regarding the Holiday Blues for teens are excellent points. As a Parent Advocate, (Sue Scheff), I believe we have to keep informed on today's teen issues.

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Friday, December 14, 2007

Fashion Bullying by Connect with Kids




Parent's Universal Resource Experts is proactive in educating parents today on the issues surrounding our kids - bullying has become common with kids. As a Parent Advocate, (Sue Scheff), I believe we have to keep informed on what is going on in our child's life outside our home.

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Thursday, December 13, 2007

Cyberbullying and Suicide by Connect with Kids


Parent's Universal Resource Experts is proactive in educating parents today on the issues surrounding our kids - the most critical today is the dangers of the Internet. As a Parent Advocate, (Sue Scheff), I believe we have to keep informed and up to date on Cyber-Safety.

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Friday, November 30, 2007

Teen Depression Symptoms by Psych Central Staff


Parents Universal Resource Experts continues to find educating articles for parents with teens that are struggling with today's issues including depression. As a parent advocate (Sue Scheff) it is important to keep updated with today's teens and what is happening in their lives.

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Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Which Schools has the Most Violence by Connect with Kids




Parent's Universal Resource Experts continues to keep parents updated on today's schools. Unfortunately today there is more to schools then reading and writing; there can be fighting too. As a Parent Advocate (Sue Scheff) I believe parents need to keep updated and informed. These tips for parents is valuable.

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Saturday, November 3, 2007

Sue Scheff: Parents may need to intervene in cyberbullying by Brian Greeson

Recently I created a new website to help parents understand Teen Internet Addiction www.sue-scheff.net - that deals with kids "wrapped up in the web." Today's parents need to be educated and informed on this expanding Cyberspace and the potential dangers of it with our children.

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Friday, October 26, 2007

Anorexia and Eating Disorders

Connect with Kids offers a library of valuable video's for parents to help educate them on today's teens issues. As a Parent Advocate (Sue Scheff) I feel it is imperative for parents to keep informed and always be aware if their child is starting to display negative and concerning behavior. Being an educated parent can help you help your teenager.

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Wednesday, October 24, 2007

(Sue Scheff) Psychiatric Problems In Teens Difficult To Pinpoint

In today's society of teens it is imperative that parents keep informed and always keep your lines of communication open with your child. As a parent advocate (Sue Scheff) being an educated parent is imperative today.

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Friday, October 19, 2007

(Sue Scheff) Sobering depiction of teen drinking

With an empty martini glass at her elbow, teenager Serena van der Woodsen, star of the CW's "Gossip Girl," leans against the tony Manhattan bar and blithely downs another vodka concoction, unscathed. As a parent advocate (Sue Scheff) it is important for parents to keep informed on today's serious teen issues.

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Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Connect with Kids: Parenting Teenagers is Hard

Loving our Kids is Easy - Parenting teens can be more challenging. As a parent advocate, I believe we need to keep informed on today's teen issues and keep our lines of communication open. Connect with Kids offers valuable and educational assistance for parents.

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Sunday, October 14, 2007

(Sue Scheff) Teen Pregnancy: How To Tell If You Are Pregnant

Teen pregnancy is one of the most difficult issues teens and families face. It is very important to be educated on your options and keeping your lines of communication open with all involved. It can be an emotional and extremely hard time for the entire family. Read more about it.

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Thursday, October 4, 2007

The statistic no one wants to encounter – teen suicide

Being a proactive parent and being aware of what our teens are doing and feeling is so important today. As a parent advocate, (Sue Scheff), I believe parents need to educate themselves on today's teens issues and peer pressure.

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Tuesday, October 2, 2007

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Reduces Risks of Teen Antidepressant Use

Interesting report from MedPage about the use of Anti-depressant use with teens. As a parent advocate (Sue Scheff), parents need to be educated in today's teen issues.

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